Parents do think that children would automatically go to school and develop interest in their academics.

When the children don’t even cross the age and stage of natural childhood they compel them to go to school.

Not only the studies but parents want their wards to develop peer group and sociability, pressurize their children to attend schools.

Below five years, children are to be reared up like prince/princess showing lot of love and care and alas at this stage, parents leave them either in day care homes or play schools.

Children who are thus deprived of the pleasure of being with parents and play on their laps or under their indirect supervision, develop a sense of insecurity or a quality of arrogance later on.

Children need coaching with love, care and patience. What to do, most of the parents do not know or have all the three.

They are more particular about results and not efforts before achieving the results – a pity indeed.

Parents, do you want your children to be more sociable, more studious in studies and more interested in schooling, then please coach them even before they attend schools.

Reading to children and showing pictures even before they understand words, and making them meddle with the books would create an urge in them to go for reading and attending schooling.

The author of this article did this when his daughter was to attend school. Yes, I used to take her to the bus stop where the children would be boarding bus with uniforms and I would show my daughter as to how children are happily going to schools to study.

I would get her books and sitting on my laps she would listen to me narrating a lot of stories from the book and looking at the alphabets would make her familiar with them.

Always studies should be a pleasure and not pressure to children. This is the way to make them have very successful schooling and academic life.

Parents, please allot time to spend more time with your children and do these for them.

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The recent Bihar incident made all the fair minded honest people across the world ashamed!

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People are not happy and cheerful all the time. Why? People look for source of happiness from outside.

Whereas, the technique of feeling happy all the time is with us and within.

Brain is getting a lot of message units (for instance now through your eyes while you are reading this) through our five senses.

Brain is a recorder which simply records all the message units through five channels (five senses).

Whereas the interpretation is made by the mind based on one’s previous experiences.

This is the reason why one single incident is perceived differently by different people and differently by the same person on different occasions.

When you emotionally perceive things, they automatically enter your subconscious mind to remain for long or for ever.

The technique is to logically reason out each and every message unit that comes out of our interaction with people under any situation / circumstance / environment and decide to store or delete.

As we do with our computers, please delete the unwanted and useless temporary files of thoughts with tremendous awareness to make room for the good and useful ones.

This exercise is very easy – close yours – look all your memories – sweet, positive and productive? – keep them and NO, delete them unhesitatingly at once and press ‘REFRESH’ button.

What’s Refresh button – the feel of happiness supported by few positive and powerful words.

NLP teaches us the technique of erasing bad and embittering memories. It is very easy and effective.

Then see the energy and enthusiasm that flow through all your thoughts, words and deeds.

Best wishes….

Anger is the one of the two dangerous negative emotions and the other one is fear.

However, anger is essential for life as a guard against those who can do harm to us.

No one can avoid anger, as there are a good number of people who create it in us for no fault of ours.

When we are helpless to avoid anger, we must know the technique to handle it correctly.

One who gets anger always is heated

One who gets anger for a silly reason and/or severe manner is neglected and

One who gets anger for a right reason in a correct way is respected.

People are of three categories;

a. those who do everything rubbish out of anger and repent for what havoc they have caused .

b. those who suddenly realize that they are angry and become cool.

c. those who sense they would get angry unnecessarily and avoid it.

The third category of people are wise enough to interact with people and they are with excellent Interpersonal Relations.

When you sense anger;

Stop your activity and relax.

Vacate the place, if you can

Smile a lot and be aware of the situation

Take sufficient deep breathing – anger and breathing are interconnected. When you are in anger, the breathing increases.

Take a glass of water

If possible sit down and if you can even lay down as the rays of anger raises in 90 degree.

Close your eyes and think of your existence in this world temporarily. This would show you the mortal nature of your existence in your body.

Please keep pause and explain your anger with sweet words of reality and avoid expressing anger brutally.

Let us handle anger – the negative emotion productively.

All the best.

• Children are children and parents are not parents many a time. Children are always active and curious.
• Children all the time learn by doing themselves. In those crazy moments, children do not know at all as to what is right and what is wrong.
• For them, everything is a toy to play with. A knife, a scissor, electric shaver and what not.
• They see us using all these. They want to try with them as well not knowing the dangers in them.
• Whereas we parents do not educate them with kind words and a hug. Rather we shout at them not knowing their basic nature.
• It is not the children who should be careful always but the parents who rear and goad them up.
• We treat children as children but expect them to behave matured – sorry not possible friends.
• My daughter is a very calm and quiet girl. We never had any trying times with her. Just a gaze was enough to prevent her from doing ‘wrong’.
• Whereas, my grandsons are very active. They need to be educated almost daily several times on DOs and DONTs.
• My daughter and SIL are doing this in a most loving way. When we don’t do this in a loving way, the children will have a tendency to do it secretly. This is more dangerous.
• This incident which happened to my friend is an eye-opener. He owns a Honda Activa and he used to take his grandson in it. He would stand in front holding the two rear view mirrors.
• A grand child took a puffing instrument used by his grand pa for his Asthma and when prompted, he coolly said “no cartridge in it – no problem”. He knows that but not the child. Another time it may do so with the medicine in it. What about a gun? Would we say “no bullet – let him play with it”,
• This has happened to one of my friends. He owns a new Honda Activa Scooter. He used to take his grand son in it – who would stand

• in front of the seat One day while getting down, the boy held the accelerator tight and turned it. Since it is an auto-gear vehicle, it had zoomed forward and luckily there was no major injury for the child. This happened in front of his house – imagine the repercussion had it happened on a busy road! The child did not know that it held and turned the accelerator but the grand pa should have visualized this risk and danger.
• The responsibility is always lying with the parents. We cannot blame the children. Alas, parents do have NO time at all to pay attention towards children even to show love and care – worst is the case of parents both employed.
• They show no patience as the same is already sapped by the boss, colleagues at office and all and sundry on road while coming back home.
• Result? Our own children are treated as slaves and orphans and we are complacent with the comforts given to them through our handsome earnings!
• Please allow them to play, allow them to try with new things, allow them to move, climb and even fall – with every activity they enjoy, they are thrilled and they feel the freedom. We want them to be quiet – sorry!!
• Computer games and electronic gadgets tie them down at one place and parents are also happy with it. They seldom know they are restricting the physical as well as the mental growth of the child.
• A man was seen walking on a busy bazar with his mischievous son. Every time when the boy did any mischief, the father said ” Peter Calm down calm.down. calm down”. A man who was following the dad and son watched this and appreciated the father “sir, Peter seems to be very mischievous, I appreciate you that you say to him Peter calm down and don’t shout at all” The father smilingly said “Peter is my name”.
• Have a nice parenting friends – let your children feel happy, cheerful and safe under your parenting !!
• Catch you soon with another post.

No creature other than a human being under the sun conceives the thought of committing suicide.

Even a worm, when touched sneaks away to save its life. All creatures want to live except mankind who conceives thought of committing suicide.

Like Bacteria which are slumberous in our body, the thought of committing suicide as a means of escape from problems remains dormant in our mind.

When the body becomes weak, bacteria attack and when the mind becomes weak, this thought of suicide grips us.

Tell me friends, did you not conceive this thought of committing suicide until this moment?

The basic nature of our subconscious mind is to make us happy and make us alive.

Then why are we conceiving this idea of suicide? It is because, we are not either trained by our parents on facing problems of life.

Either parents failed to do so or taught us the other way by their words and deeds.

Although this very thought on suicide crops up a lot of time so far, how and why we are alive still? This is because of one single fact that the subconscious mind is acting as a defense mechanism.

However, when our self pity gains momentum to bypass this defense mechanism, then the attempt will follow.

One seminal attempt is enough for the individual to repeat even at the slightest provocation later on.

Hence, we must get trained to say NO within ourselves to avoid first attempt. We must know how to snub this thought of suicide at the root level.

The technique is very simple – never follow this thought (and it is the trick of the mind to swell this thought so easily causing severe self pity and helplessness) but stop it with a very strong positive thought.

Great personalities, richest, wisest, erudite, scholars, great warriors, famous people and the most talented did commit suicide to enter the annals of history in a sad way.

Education, money, wealth, talent, name, fame and status – nothing can prevent this very thought of committing suicide.

Only training the mind in a positive way can alone save us all from it.

Simple Technique:

1. Remain positive all the time to vibrate positively

2. Mediate & Pray with positive visualization

3. Surrender and repose full faith in God

4. Indulge in auto-suggestions with affirmations

5. Be in the company of good and positive – negative people may induce or support this idea

6. Stop this thought of suicide at the root level and replace this thought with thoughts on life.

7. Avoid solitary confinement when you are mentally disturbed

8. Be active and avoid laziness – idle mind is devil’s workshop

9. Laugh a Lot

10. Repeat all the above again and again.

Let us discuss in my next post as to what would happen to the ejected soul after suicide – when people know this, sorry they would never think of suicide.

I have come across this incident in the life of Sadhu Vaswani, which impressed me so much and from there on my focus was turned to my inner beauty.

Dadha, as he fondly called by his followers, was a young man on the pursuit of real truth – remained as a sadhak on his spiritual journey. His friends wanted to see how steadfast was he in his pursuit to find the real truth of life.

They lock Dadha up in a house along with a beautiful young prostitute. The girl was a bewitching beauty that no one can escape her octopus clutches of attractive appearance. She knew all the techniques of a trained prostitute to plunder the attention of any male.

The youth were so excited when they peeped through the key hole that the girl grabbed Dadha towards her and tried to kiss him. Enough for the youth ! What they wanted had started happening.

They waited for few hours anxiously outside the house and suddenly entered the house to remain shell-shocked. They could not believe the scene inside the house.

The young hermit was on the ground and so was the prostitute. Both were found with folded hands and praying to God.

The prostitute was praying with welling eyes “O God, this beauty of mine will decay for sure as the years go by and no one would care for me. It is with the inner beauty through pure divine thoughts one can remain beautiful for ever”.

Then both of them started chanting the holy names of God by doing a bhajan together.

The youth who wanted to do foul-play with the young hermit, fell at his feet and sought his pardon.

Saints and sages always look for the inner beauty and outer cover does not impress them at all.

Let us focus on the inner beauty friends setting aside the outer cover !

Vertical communication especially with your immediate boss is very vital. Wrong words and tonality would tend to change the meaning you intended.

Let Me See !

No boss would like to hear these words while handing over a new assignment. “Sure” “Yes” “Certainly” would sound encouraging rather. When you say Let Me See, you express your lack of confidence for sure.

Why Me !

Boss always hands over responsibilities to those he/she trusts very much. You may be feeling overburdened or targeted – nevertheless when you accept and accomplish every assignment, you earn more credibility and importance than others, especially from the boss’ angle.

To Err Is Human !

Every boss would expect the subordinate to accept the mistake done. Above can be said by a boss and not but the one who committed mistake. Never try to paper over the mistakes done or are prepared to justify it by dry sayings.

You Are Indifferent !

This is the most unpalatable word for the boss. You may be right in your feelings that the same boss did behave differently altogether in respect of another one under similar circumstances. However, it is unfair on your part to come out with this sort of reaction. The boss can justify with his own logical reasoning for any of his actions. At the end of the day boss is boss.

How Will You Compensate ?

Certain jobs may sap your time and energy. The time frame may also be trying and taxing. You may be required to work beyond normal working hours unlike others. It is better to accept the challenge with a smile. The benefit is ensured – monitory or otherwise.

One of my relatives working with a software concern had successfully accomplished a given target but was not given promotion as expected by him except a paltry one-time bonus on which he was not at all satisfied. He came to me and said he would never accept any assignment in future as he was deceived and felt disappointed. After six months, one hundred Executives were sent home on a one month’s notice whereas he was spared although he was on sick leave. When he mentioned this to me I told him that was because of his contributions.

Vocal Dynamics

You have to mind your tone and tenor that too when the boss is in the company of his/her superior or with an outsider. Even right words uttered with wrong and erratic tonality would change the perception pattern of the boss. It is always not what we say but how we say.

Best of luck friends !

• I always aim at the inner re-engineering of a person. Be it my counseling session or Reiki Session or my NLP based Training Program, I will be very particular to cause a change in a person’s inner mind.
• This is because, my dear friends, when a person is enriched and empowered with positive change of thoughts, whatever the person does would become perfect and good.
• An effective personal coach is the one who is able to cause a productive churning inside a person to get a positive expected result sooner or later.
• Your image in your mind and the self talk that you get engaged yourself within all the time matter most.
• It is what we talk withing ourselves and how we could see our image is all the more important than how we talk to others and how others look at us.
• Most of us do not know the power of positive self talk (auto suggestion) and hence talk rubbish within. Suppose, we miss our bus. What is the plausible self talk at that moment “shit..I would have started earlier, my wife, idiot picked up a talk just before leaving home or why the hell my mother compelled me to take a cup of a coffee, I missed this bus miserably.. it is my fate…” and so on. Right or wrong?
• Instead, when you change your scripting like this ” wow, I missed this bus, may be for good – this is not my bus today and another right one is coming now” instead of blaming others for what happens and feel irritated, one can easily talk within like this.
• Likewise, our image should be seen so smilingly in life size, bright without frames and in true colors – such images make us so happy and confident.
• The positive self talk and bright happy self image emanate very strong positive vibes to make a person successful in all walks of life all the time.
• Start positive self talk and see smiling bright image of yours from this moment to make your life successful.
• Best of Luck Friends!